When a couple’s sex life gets stale and it’s not about compatibility or sentimental issues, the two can start looking for ways in which to improve the sexual connection. It can be anything from a new approach to bedroom fun, to sex toys, new locations and to swinging.
Let’s start with what’s perhaps the most surprising option on the list. There is no secret that people of all kinds, from single to married for decades, can go to a swingers club. It is about the variety that is being offered in a safe, controlled environment. Anyone who gets in is required to abide by the club’s rules. In these locations, couples can go together and have sexual activities with each other or with others. All happens with the consent of everyone involved. Therefore, if you don’t want to take part in a certain activity, just say no.
Swinging requires great communication and trust between partners. It is not for those who have low self esteem and don’t feel confident about themselves and their long term partner. As you read the rules of such clubs, you will see that they absolutely require this, too. Any swingers club wants its clients to have a positive experience.
If this is not your cup of tea, you may want to view your relationship from a different angle. You can pretend you just go to know each other all over again, pretend to be strangers or different people. Role playing is considered fun by many people. It stimulates the imagination and provides new sensations. You can pretend you are someone else and this has the power to create w whole new experience.
The easiest way to spice up a sexual routine is by adding some sex toys, new positions and so on. Sometimes, small changes go a long way. Besides, it’s comfortable to explore your naughty side this way. Even a new set of lingerie is a welcome surprise. Or, perhaps the change you should make is all about communication. Trying to talk more openly to your partner and maybe ask them openly about their desires could totally refresh your love life.
Of course, a therapist or a relationship coach can also provide you with great insight and show you new ways to seduce your long term partner and revive the passion. You need to have the openness to listen to their suggestions, though. Sometimes, a stale sex life is just about a lack of communication or a poor way to communicate. It could stem from a faulty understanding of your significant other or from a wrong perception of your own self.